We want to make sure your dating experience is a rewarding and fun one, that is why we ask you to read the following hints and tips
to keep you safe while you're out there meeting people
Warning Signs
This is a list of signs to look out for when talking or interacting with dates or potential dates.
Be sure to pay attention to these signs, especially with users who score 2 or above on aggressivity.
Hostility and Anger
A quick temper
Using anger instead of an emotion more appropriate for the situation
Blaming others for one's own problems
Breaking objects in anger
Violence
Using violence against individuals
Using threats against individuals
Approving or justifying violence used by others
Dominance
Being a sore loser
Extreme competitiveness
Interrupting or not listening to those of the opposite gender in polite conversation
Silencing or oppressing opinions of the opposite gender
Using intimidating body language
Sexual Entitlement
Sexualizing relationships that are not appropriately sexual
Engaging in conversation that is inappropriately intimate
Making inappropriate sexual comments about others
Telling sexual jokes in inappropriate conversation
Creates unwanted physical contact
If a date or potential date exhibits more than one of these qualities, especially those in the Sexual Entitlement category, be very cautious.
These are warning signs typically associated with date-rapists and aggressive individuals, and extreme precautions should be taken to ensure your safety.
General Advice
This is general advice that can be used on this website, or any other website
BEWARE OF SCAMMERS - Do not send money or anything of value to people you only know online. Be especially cautious of wire transfers. Take caution when talking to individuals who appear to be using multiple accounts, are pushy, uses improper grammar or spelling, or asks for money.
DO NOT SHARE FINANCIAL INFORMATION - Never share your bank account numbers, credit card numbers, or any other personal information or documents.
DO NOT SHARE PERSONAL INFORMATION - Never give out your full name, home address, or phone number until you are certain of who you are talking to. NEVER SHARE YOUR SOCIAL SECURITY NUMBER unless you two end up dating for a few years, and then get married or something like that. In which case, congrats.
REPORT ABUSIVE USERS - If someone is being pushy, making inappropriate comments, or being abusive in any way, report them, and ignore any further messages.
GET TO KNOW INDIVIDUALS BEFORE MEETING THEM OR REVEALING ANY PERSONAL INFORMATION
Advice Specific to BlindDately
LOOK AT A USER'S AGGRESSIVITY SCORE - If they score 1, be a little cautious. 2 or more, be very cautious, and take things slow. 4 or 5, Be extremely cautious, this user may be dangerous.
TAKE A LOOK AT THEIR POSTS - See what sort of interactions this user has had with others.
Advice for Meeting Offline
ALWAYS MEET IN A PUBLIC LOCATION - When meeting someone new always meet in a location with plenty of witnesses, and never in the middle of nowhere or a private or secluded location.
TELL A FRIEND OR FAMILY MEMBER - Tell a friend or family member where you are going and what time you will be home, or what time you will call. It is best to tell more than one person where you are going. Be sure to also reveal as much information about your date as possible to this friend or family member. You may also want to consider using our Safedate tool.
TRAVEL SAFE - Drive yourself, or have a friend drive you to and from your date. Do not get in a car with a stranger - No matter how well the date went.
STAY IN A PUBLIC PLACE - Do not go to your date's home, or invite them to yours on a first date. Stay in a public place.
DO NOT LET YOUR DATE PRESSURE YOU - If your date is pressuring you into sex, or something you do not wish to do, leave immediately. Make a scene if you have to.
If it's long distance...
KEEP YOUR FRIENDS/FAMILY NOTIFIED - Call them at least once a day, and let them know you are safe.
STAY IN A HOTEL - Do not reveal the location of the hotel, and be sure to take a cab or use a rental car to and from this hotel. And do not go to this person's house, or invite them to the hotel room.